Life isn’t the sweetest candy. Sometimes, when it feels like the world is too heavy, you can find people who continue to live fascinating and beautiful experiences. And then the question: “How did their life become so adorably sweet? How come they still can manage to laugh and play around despite a stressful life?” Then I pause and observed for a while. I figured out that maybe, they start to work in a place called “self.”
So, how does one become genuinely happy? Step 1 is to love yourself.
Somebody once said that “loving means accepting.” To love one’s self means to understand that you are not a perfect being, but behind the imperfections must lie a great ounce of courage to discover ways to improve your repertoire to recover from your mistakes.
Genuine happiness also pertains to contentment. When you are content with the job you have, the way you look, with your family, your friends, the place you live in, your car, and all the things you now have, honestly, you know the answer to the question of how to be genuinely happy.
When we discover a small start somewhere from within, that small start will eventually lead to something else and do something else. But if you keep questioning life lit, it has never done you any right, you will never be able to find genuine happiness.
I believe that life is about finding out right and wrong, trying and failing, winning, and losing. These are things that happen as often as you inhale and exhale. Failure, in a person’s life, has become as abundant and necessary as air. But this should not hinder you from becoming happy.
How to be genuinely happy despite all these?
Every time you exert effort to improve the quality of life and your being, whether it is cleaning up your room, helping a friend, taking care of your sick dog, fail on board exams, and trying again, life gives you equivalent points for that.
Imagine life as a big scoreboard like those which are used in the NFL’s. Every time you take a step forward, you make scoring points. Wouldn’t it be nice to look at that board at the end of each game and think to yourself: “Whew! I got a point today. I’m glad I gave it a shot!” Instead of looking at it all blank and murmur: “Geez, I didn’t even hit a score today. I wish I had the guts to try out. We could have won! and then walk away.
Genuine happiness isn’t about driving the hottest Formula 1 car, nor getting the employee of the year award, earning the highest 13th-month pay, or beating the sales quota. Sometimes, the most sought after prizes in life don’t always go to the fastest, the strongest, the bravest, or even the best. So, how do you become genuinely happy?
Everyone has his own definition of happiness. Happiness for a writer may mean launching as much best selling books as possible. Happiness for a basketball rookie may mean getting the rookie of the year award. Happiness for a beggar may mean a lot of money. Happiness for a businessman may mean success. So, how do we become genuinely happy? Simple. It’s about doing and making the best out of every single thing. When you find yourself smiling at your own mistake and telling your self “Oh, I’ll do better next time” you carry with you a flame of strong will power to persevere that may spread out like a brush fire. You possess a willingness to stand up again and try that will make you genuinely a happy person.
When you learn to accept yourself and your own faults. You pass step 1 in the project on how to become genuinely happy. For as long as you know how to take others, you will also be accepted. For as long as you love and know how to love, you will receive love tenfold back.
Again, throw me that same question on how to become genuinely happy?. I’ll refer you to a friend of mine who quoted – “Most of us know that laughter is the best medicine to life’s aches and pain. But most of us don’t know that the best kind of laughter is laughter over self. Cuz then you don’t just become happy, you become free.”